by Dr. Heléna Kate | Oct 6, 2013 | Dr. Heléna Kate's Blog
So what is meant by the term \”vision\”? It\’s simple. Whatever difference you want to make in the world — ending hunger and war, teaching parents how to raise children better, teaching partners how to love better, or however you want to make the world a better place — it is important to have a clear desired end result.
Your vision is your all-encompassing goal. You might never ultimately achieve this goal on your own — after all, ending world hunger is a pretty tall order — but your contribution will get the world closer to that goal.
Your first step is to create your Vision Statement. Most businesses use this step, as well, to help them formulate their business plan. It\’s a good way to help clarify your project.
Here is the first part of an exercise to help you write your Vision Statement:
Answer the following questions:
What I want to change about the world is:
One to three things I think the world needs are:
What I want to communicate to the world is:
How is your life and your business currently in line with your vision? What steps can you take today and this week that will bring you closer to living your purpose through this vision?
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by Dr. Heléna Kate | Oct 3, 2013 | Dr. Heléna Kate's Blog
Frequently, when people are unable to reach their goals, they start to look for flaws in themselves, others, or their project. They might think, \”What is wrong with me?\” Or, \”Why is it every time I try to move forward I have problems with this person or that person?\” Or, they think, \”Is this even the right idea? Maybe I have been wrong about the idea from the beginning.\”
Sometimes people can even miss everything that is going right because of the fact that they are looking at only part of the information — the negative part.
This results in a loss of drive, focus, enthusiasm, and happiness. Chances are, if you are losing steam, there are some habits causing this that could benefit from being remedied. For example:
Perfectionism: A perfectionist sometimes gives up before even starting. Their standards are so high that starting new tasks is difficult because there is no way to master something and begin it at the same time.
Shoulds: Some people have come to believe there are absolutes guiding their life. For example: a person believes he or she should be an accountant instead of an artist. Or that other people should have done something different. Or he or she should have known better.
Same Wrong Way: People often think their success depends on their ability to do it the way others have done it even if they are completely unlike the others they are comparing themselves to. So they compare themselves to others, looking for what is lacking. Eventually, if you look hard enough, you can find it.
The simple but profound practice of gratitude is helpful in taming all of these beasts. When we remember to be grateful for who we are, the people we have around us, and the things we have, problems like perfectionism melt away.
It is impossible to be grateful and negative at the same time. Remember to tell yourself and others what you are grateful for, what is working and what positive difference you believe it is making.
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by Dr. Heléna Kate | Oct 1, 2013 | Dr. Heléna Kate's Blog
Do you know what the number-one reason is that people leave a job? It\’s not the pay. It\’s the relationships — or the lack of good ones — particularly with their superiors.
You might think that, with the changes in the economy, people might start thinking about the money first. However, this is not the case. This means it is more important than ever not just to pay your employees well, but to know how to make and keep them happy.
To do this, we need to know how to be good leaders of our businesses. How to communicate, delegate, problem-solve and bring out the brilliance of our team. Here are some important skills.
Communicate: Leaders need to know how to get difficult points across, listen effectively, and show appreciation.
Delegate: Leaders need to know how to give the people they are working with tasks and the power and tools needed to complete those tasks.
Problem Solve: Leaders need to be able to see the big picture and find solutions that are in everyone\’s best interest.
Brilliance: Leaders need to know how to give members of their team the license to express their creativity, make mistakes to try for a better outcome, and give them the respect they deserve.
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by Dr. Heléna Kate | Sep 29, 2013 | Dr. Heléna Kate's Blog
1. Be kind and generous: In every moment of every day it is possible to change someone’s life. Sometimes, it is as simple as just being kind.
2. Be clear about what does and does not work for you: People cannot work with you if they do not know what you are all about. If you are always compromising yourself, you will not be as effective.
3. Be your full self: Holding back because you think that is what others want is not helpful to anyone. You would not be who you are if it was not needed.
4. Let others be their full selves: The same goes for anyone else. If you think others need to be different, you are wrong. Let people be who they really are. If you don’t like it, figure out how to work with it.
5. Say thank you: People love to be appreciated. Let them know when you are grateful.
6. Look for ways to give back: Don’t lose track of making a contribution. No matter where you find yourself in your life, you can give back in a way that helps others.
7. Tip well and tip often: If you have money — and some might argue that this is true even if you don’t have money — make sure to support the people who are making minimum wage. They are working hard.
8. Support the things you believe in: Purchase what you want to support. Spend your time doing what you want to support. Talk about the things you want to support. You get the picture?
9. Really listen: Most people are not listened to enough. Pay attention to them and let them know they are important.
10. Focus: Know what you want to create and how you can help others. Then do it. Most everything else is a waste of time.
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by Dr. Heléna Kate | Sep 26, 2013 | Dr. Heléna Kate's Blog
Your back aches, your coffee\’s luke warm, or you fall behind schedule.
There are myriad things that can and will go wrong every single day of your life. (And hey — there\’s also plenty that goes right, so keep track of that, too.)
Many of us allow one sour moment to spoil what would have otherwise been a perfectly sweet day. But it doesn\’t have to be this way. There are simple — really simple — ways to keep your stress in check and stop agonizing over the inevitable.
\”We\’re living in a society where we think the answers have to be really complicated,\” says Kathy Gruver, Ph.D., author of \”Conquer Your Stress With Mind/Body Techniques.\” \”We tend to complicate our own lives, but things can be ridiculously simple — and still work.\” The next time there\’s a bump in the road, remember a few of the mental tricks below to help yourself smoothly redirect back on course.
Just. Stop. Thinking. About. It. Certain pain, like an aching back, feels impossible to ignore. But agonizing over what hurts won\’t help you to feel any better. Instead, you\’re just suffering twice (once in your head, once in your back). \”You have the choice to think about something else,\” says Gruver, which is a somewhat shockingly simple truth. Just. Stop.
Focus on the breath.
\”Breathing is so cool because it happens automatically and it\’s something we can control,\” Gruver says. Breath concentration works anywhere and it gives you something positive to focus on. Gruver suggests thinking \”I am,\” on your inhale and \”at peace\” on your exhale. This technique it powerful: It overrides negative thoughts and redirects your focus. \”It\’s hard to stop thinking things, but it\’s easy to replace those thoughts with something else.\”
Don\’t beat yourself up if stress-inducing thoughts creep their way in.
It\’s normal and natural for this to happen, but judging yourself for it sort of defeats the purpose of the practice. Gruver says to dismiss these thoughts without judging yourself for having them, and carry on.
Visualize something that doesn\’t make you anxious.
\”Visualization gives you control and can help decrease your pain.\” Visualize anything from your favorite vacation spot when you\’re feeling on edge to your body actually healing itself when you\’re experiencing physical pain. \”The more real you can make it, the more it\’s going to work.\” The doctor herself visualizes a \”little construction worker\” moving around her body, working to mend and heal her whenever she feels achy or sick.
Use cues to remind you to be mindful.
\”Mindfulness isn’t about setting time aside and sitting on the pillow for meditation,\” says the practitioner. \”Mindfulness is about making your everyday activity a meditation.\” There are times when the practice of being mindful seems to slip our minds, and we get caught up in the heat of the moment. In these cases, it can be helpful to use \”mindful cues\” to bring us back to center. Whether it\’s an alarm on your phone, an app that reminds you to breathe or even the laugh of your colleague that you choose to associate with being present, setting these little reminders will prevent the chaos of the day from becoming too much to bear.
Rely on a someone you trust.
When you want to start making changes, ask a confidant to be a gentle reminder. If you want to stop complaining about your boss, mention it to someone you\’re close to. He\’s more likely to catch — and stop — you in the act. It\’s a system that\’ll keep you in check when you react to a stressful situation rather than respond to it.
reblogged from The Huffington Post
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