There is a kind of strength that doesn’t come from willpower.
It doesn’t even come from having the right tools or strategies.
It comes from knowing—deep in your bones—that you are held.

That is the resilience that grows when we are connected to Source.

When we talk about resilience, especially in personal development, it’s often framed as an internal grit or a behavioral practice: bounce back, stay positive, push through. But there is a sacred layer to resilience that is too often overlooked—the kind that’s born not just from our effort, but from our alignment.

Let’s be clear: resilience is not about spiritualizing over hardship or muscling through. It’s not the ability to suppress our emotions or bypass our needs. It’s not about staying strong in ways that leave us hardened or isolated.

True resilience comes from capacity, not just coping. And that capacity expands the more we are anchored—anchored in truth, in presence, in the energy that sources all things.

When we’re in relationship with Source—whatever name you give it: God, Spirit, Love, the Divine—we are reminded of what is more real than fear, than pain, than circumstance. We are reminded that even in our unraveling, we are not unheld.

Life is unpredictable. Even when we’ve done the work, even when we’ve healed, even when we’re “aligned,” we’ll still encounter loss, disappointment, friction, and fatigue. And while our tools are valuable, they’re not always enough.

We need a place to come home to.
A place inside that is deeper than the current storm.
A source that doesn’t change even when everything else does.

This is what spiritual anchoring gives us.

It gives us clarity when our mind is noisy.
It gives us comfort when our emotions are raw.
It gives us direction when the path is unclear.

It reminds us that we are not doing this alone—not really.

Connection to Source doesn’t require a perfect practice or belief system. It’s not performative. It’s not earned. But it does require relationship. And like any relationship, it is strengthened through attention, humility, and presence.

Here are some ways to deepen that connection:

1. Create Space for Communion

Whether it’s five minutes of silence in the morning, a simple prayer before bed, or a sacred pause before making a decision, carve out moments that are just for listening. Not asking. Not fixing. Just listening for the presence that’s already there.

2. Be Honest With God

So many people think they need to be composed to come to the Divine. But the sacred doesn’t need your polish—it longs for your presence. Rage, grief, numbness, desire… all of it is welcome. When you stop performing your spirituality and start bringing your real self, your connection deepens.

3. Let Beauty Speak to You

Connection to Source is not always mystical. Sometimes it comes through the sunlight hitting the trees, a line in a book, the sound of someone’s laugh. Pay attention. Let these small miracles reintroduce you to the energy that created them.

4. Notice the Patterns of Love

Resilience is built when we start to notice that even when things fall apart, something is always reaching toward us—offering grace, synchronicity, softness, support. When you begin to see these moments not as accidents, but as communications from Source, your trust grows. And trust is a profound source of strength.

• • • Regulate without rigidity
    • Love without losing ourselves
    • Act without anxiety
    • Rest without guilt
  This isn’t just resilience. It’s liberated resilience—rooted in love, not fear.

If you’ve been feeling worn down by life’s demands or emotionally stretched by what’s unfolding in your world, you don’t need to do more. You need to reconnect. Come home. Get quiet. Let yourself be reminded.

You don’t need to be strong all the time.
You don’t need to have the answers.
You just need to remember that you are not alone.

Resilience is not just what you carry—
it’s what carries you.

If you’re longing to rebuild your strength from a deeper place, come join me on the Roar of Love podcast, where we explore the sacred intersection of healing and connection, devotion and embodiment, courage and care.

At some point on your spiritual path, you will be called to take a leap—a soul-level invitation into the next octave of your becoming. You might feel it as a tug deep in your belly, an undeniable sense that there is something more for you. And yet, the moment you begin to move toward it, resistance rises like a wave.

You find yourself second-guessing, negotiating with your intuition, or even turning away entirely. You tell yourself it’s not the right time. That you’re not ready. That someone else is more spiritual, more “healed,” more worthy.

This is spiritual resistance, and it is as sacred as the path itself.

For those walking toward initiation—true, lineage-based initiation that activates your light and awakens your service—this resistance can be especially potent. But here’s what most people don’t realize:

Fear does not mean you are on the wrong path. Fear means you are standing at the threshold of transformation.

Spiritual resistance is not just procrastination. It’s a protective mechanism of the ego—one that activates whenever we come close to dissolving its control.

Your ego doesn’t fear failure. It fears obliteration.

When we step toward lineage-based initiation, we move into energetic terrain that dissolves illusion, strips away false identity, and calls our soul into fuller embodiment. This is not casual or recreational spirituality. It is soul-level alchemy, and your ego knows it.

That resistance might look like:

• Procrastinating on setting up a consult or attending an event
• Getting sick right before a spiritual retreat
• Experiencing intense fatigue or apathy
• Feeling irrational fear or dread
• Doubting your teacher, the path, or your own intuition

None of these are signs you are “off track.” They are signs you are on it—and brushing right up against the parts of you that are ready to be transmuted.

Another common fear that arises on the path to initiation is the belief that you must be somehow better, clearer, or more healed before you step into deeper work.

But let me say this as clearly as I can:

You do not need to be perfect to be initiated. You simply need to be willing.

Willing to grow. Willing to commit. Willing to allow the Mystery to work through you, even when you don’t understand it yet.

The Sacred Lights Path doesn’t ask you to perform your spiritual readiness. It asks you to show up—authentically, messily, bravely. Initiation is the beginning, not the end.

One of the paradoxes of this work is that resistance often gets louder the closer you get to breakthrough.

That conversation you meant to have? That event you wanted to attend? That training you felt called to join?

The moment you say “yes,” life might seem to rearrange itself to prevent you. The car breaks down. You get sick. You feel waves of confusion or despair.

From an energetic perspective, this is the ego’s last stand.

It senses the coming shift and scrambles to hold on to what has always been. But this is also when grace is nearest. If you can stay steady, if you can recognize that this resistance is the echo of the old dying away—you will make it through.

1. Fear is an Invitation, Not a Warning

Fear is often a sacred signpost. Instead of interpreting it as danger, ask: What truth am I being asked to face?

2. You Are Already Enough

You don’t need to fix yourself to walk a spiritual path. Your desire, your presence, and your sincerity are enough.

3. The Ego Thrashes as It Loosens Its Grip

What feels like falling apart may actually be falling together. Trust the unraveling.

4. Initiation Is an Energetic Activation, Not a Performance

You don’t need to “do” initiation. You need to receive it. Let it work on you. Let it reshape you.

5. You’re Not Alone

Mentorship, community, and sacred lineage hold you through the fire. You don’t have to figure it out solo. This is what Sacred Lights is for.

There is a moment in every great journey where the seeker stands at the edge of their known world. The earth beneath them shakes. The sky goes quiet. Everything in them says turn back—except the deepest part, the one that whispers leap.

That is the moment of initiation.

And if you’re reading this, that moment may be here.

What awaits you on the other side is not just a new set of teachings or tools. What awaits is you, remembering who you are. What awaits is the Light that is your true inheritance—activated, embodied, and ready to serve.

You don’t have to walk alone. And you don’t have to keep waiting for the perfect moment. It’s here now. Even in the trembling.

At Sacred Lights, we hold the space for spiritual seekers, visionaries, and lightworkers like you to awaken through lineage-based initiation, mentorship, and community.

If you feel the tug of the Mystery, if your soul is stirring—don’t wait. Let this be your moment.

👉 Click here to set up a free consult and explore if initiation is your next step or find out more at sacredlights.com

Your path is sacred. Let us walk it with you.

When I think back on myself as a child, I am struck by the gentleness, openheartedness and connectedness that I possessed. I remember so many moments of feeling profound and exquisite love. As I watch the years turn in my mind, I start notice that the spontaneity of movement, the exuberant singing, the joyful embraces of loved ones declined and the solitary musings in the woods increased.

These deep and soulful moments of silent and private connection became the foundation of my development. It was when I was alone that I was most able to access myself, feel spiritual nourished, and lovingly held.

But during this time a split developed between the richness of my hearts experience, the depth of my spiritual connection and the people around me.

The ongoing infiltration of my bubble of love and innocence by destructive and predatory forces continually pushed me to withdraw, separate, and build a wall against what I was unable to otherwise protect myself from.

As time progressed and I became more and more overwhelmed by what seemed to be just parts of “normal life” for others, I had less and less access to the intrinsic lover in my nature.

This became a deep sadness that I could not put my finger on.

One version or another of this story is the story of most people’s lives. The people and events change. The responses to those people and events change but there has been a disruption in the flow of our natural essence and the way that it makes contact with the world.

We forget how to be a lover.

This year, along with some solid and relatively long standing intentions that I have been working with, I added a new one. I decided to hold the intention of being an amazing lover.

Not just of people but of life itself.

I knew that returning to this place of being the lover was asking for a healing of the early childhood places of disconnection and it meant coming into my life in a whole new way.

I also believe that returning “the lover” to the day in day out events of life is a much needed transformation of our disconnected world. I am devoted to the task.

As intentions can sometimes work, I was very soon to find myself face down with one eye wide open staring into what is holding me back and the other closed tightly hoping that the pain will pass quickly.

It was from here that I returned again to the lover inside and learned how my experiences and their resulting habits did not hold me back from being a lover but rather marvelously adorned her.

I hope in writing this that you might see this in yourself.

As you may know there is no safety, it is pointless to protect ourselves and yet we do and always will in one way or another. This is the path of the lover. The hide and seek, the reveal and conceal that is a beautiful dance of finding new levels of intimacy.

We do not need to leave our limitation behind but take them with us to the door and hold them lovingly as we pass through. In love, we find new ways to connect and then return again to the disconnect of our fragile limitations.

And then, connect once again.

There is no need to fix ourselves only the willingness to dance this dance.

Along with the compassionate carrying of our limitations, our connection to and honoring of our divine essence is the essential ground out of which our lovership emerges. It is in this access to our divine nature that we unfold the unique blueprint of our lover self.

The exquisite and perfect lover that can be like no other. The stunning essence that is devotedly received by those, who for them, its touch and its glance is a gift like the purest water.

There is no reason to fight for this essential part of us to be seen, received or accepted because this part of ourself is already in a deep embrace with its other.

For the lover part of ourselves, the embrace is eternal. But the illusion of disconnect draws us into a deeper experience of the embrace. It points the way.

The appearance of our lover for a moment or a lifetime reaches deep into a place of truth that is undeniable. It calls us, even in those moments of pain, to stretch beyond what we thought was possible into beauty that is unimaginable.

The path of the lover only goes in one direction. You cannot get lost.

Whatever you did or did not do to protect this precious part of yourself and however this may be showing up for you now, will, for the person intent of finding the lovers embrace, be signs directing them to the deepest purest part of you rather than leading away.

So, have no fear in your delicate and desiring heart, the one that craves the freedom and receptivity to allow your inner lover to return. You are ready. Your lover is waiting.

What does it mean to be empowered? One of my early teachers, Alisa Starkweather, offered a definition that has stayed with me: Empowerment means knowing that you have a choice.

It’s a deceptively simple truth. But in practice, it’s revolutionary.

To be at choice is to reclaim our authorship. It means that rather than reacting automatically to the world around us, we pause, we breathe, and we choose our response. We move from unconscious patterning to conscious participation. This is the foundation of empowerment.

We’ve all been in the grip of our inner victim at one time or another. This part of us believes that life is happening to us—that we are at the mercy of other people, external events, or inner wounds. It’s not a flaw. It’s a survival adaptation. And for many, it’s deeply familiar.

There are absolutely times in life when we are truly harmed or limited by circumstance—where choices are few or painful. But what I’m talking about here is not those moments. I’m pointing to a way of being that keeps us stuck. A habitual lens through which we see the world, where we wait for others to change before we can be free.

In this state, we say, “You are doing this to me, so I must submit—or fight.” And in doing so, we lock ourselves out of the very power that could shift the situation. The power to know that we can create the outcome that we so desire. 

Leaving behind the victim mindset doesn’t begin with blame or force. We don’t shame this part of ourselves into submission. In fact, that approach only deepens the wound. True healing begins with compassion.

Your inner victim, like all parts of you, holds wisdom. It reflects pain that has not yet been processed and stories that have not yet been seen through new eyes. When we meet this part with presence rather than rejection, we open the door to transformation.

Ask yourself:

• What has this part of me been trying to protect?
• What is it teaching me about what I need?
• How might I honor its message while choosing a more empowered path?

Stepping out of victimhood doesn’t mean we bypass difficulty or pretend to be unaffected. It means we start seeing that, even in the midst of challenge, we have a say. We can choose how to interpret, how to engage, how to respond.

The practice is simple—but not always easy. First, imagine: What else is possible here? What else could be true, what other path might you take, what version of yourself could emerge?

Then: Choose. Move in the direction of what feels more whole, more loving, more true.

You may not get it perfect—and that’s not the point. Every conscious choice is a step away from powerlessness and a step toward personal sovereignty.

Empowerment is not a fixed state; it’s a living relationship with yourself. It’s the moment-to-moment remembrance that you are not helpless. You are not broken. You are not at the mercy of the past.

You are someone who gets to choose.

And as you continue choosing—over and over again—you build the strength, clarity, and compassion to meet life as a co-creator, not a captive.

This is how we honor the victim within: not by banishing her, but by loving her enough to no longer let her lead.